### **Seven Nigerians on Navigating Sex in a New Country**
Relocating abroad often brings culture shock—and that includes one’s sex life. Seven Nigerians—mostly men—living in the UK, USA, Canada, and Germany shared how moving changed their intimacy experiences.
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#### **Mary, 27 (Female, Straight) – London**
Back in Lagos, Mary enjoyed a lively sex life with Nigerian men she fondly describes as “madness.” Since moving to London just months ago, however, her romantic life has all but dried up—locked down more by dull dates than by actual lockdown. Despite trying apps and going on outings, she finds the men less humorous and attractive compared to what she’s used to.
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#### **David, 25 (Male, Straight) – Germany**
David moved to Germany expecting more freedom and better dating options, but has only had sex twice in over a year. Disappointed by the dating culture and constant app fatigue, he deleted his profiles and is still adjusting to how different the social dynamics are. His confidence has taken a hit, and he sometimes wonders if his Nigerian background affects how he’s perceived.
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#### **Chinedu, 27 (Male, Straight) – Canada**
Chinedu relocated to Toronto last year. Initially, he found it hard to connect with anyone due to cultural differences and cold responses on dating apps. But after months of adjusting, he eventually met someone through mutual friends. Since then, his sex life has become more stable, and he’s enjoying a consistent relationship that offers both emotional and physical satisfaction.
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#### **John, 24 (Male, Straight) – England**
Once sexually adventurous in Nigeria, John found that balancing a Master’s program and casual encounters in the UK has been underwhelming. Though he’s met a few women via Tinder and clubs, the frequency and excitement haven’t matched his expectations. He also finds British dating culture less direct, and that makes things harder to navigate.
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#### **Folake, 26 (Female, Straight) – Nomadic**
Folake rarely stays in one country over three years and admits her sex life drops to zero each time she relocates. In contrast, being back in Nigeria, she picks things up almost immediately. The constant moving makes starting over difficult for her.
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#### **Tobi, 31 (Male, Straight) – New York**
Tobi moved to New York and finally felt free to explore his social life without fear of judgment. With a vibrant nightlife, more confident women, and broader dating options, he found himself attending social mixers and parties regularly. His dating life took off quickly, and he’s been enjoying both casual and meaningful experiences.
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#### **Emeka, 22 (Male, Straight) – USA**
Since relocating for university, Emeka’s been in a dry spell. Despite using dating apps, he’s noticed that cultural differences and his accent sometimes lead to awkward encounters. He’s more focused on building friendships first, and he believes the right opportunity will come naturally with time.
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### **Final Verdict: Which Country Is Best for Nigerian Men Exploring Love and Sex Abroad?**
From the stories shared, **Canada** and the **USA** stand out as the countries offering the **most fulfilling romantic and sexual experiences** for Nigerian men abroad. These environments seem more open, social, and responsive once cultural adaptation kicks in. Tobi in New York and Chinedu in Canada both reflect this shift from isolation to connection.
By contrast, **the UK** feels more emotionally closed-off and disappointing for many Nigerian men, with slower connection-building and limited spontaneity in dating. **Germany**, as David explains, can feel cold and unwelcoming in the dating space, which affects confidence.
That said, the “best” country depends on **personal goals**—whether you’re after emotional connection, casual fun, or just adapting socially. But based on this sample:
> 🔥 **Best for active dating and nightlife:** USA
> 💗 **Best for stable relationships and connection:** Canada
> 🧊 **Most emotionally distant dating culture:** UK
> 🧩 **Most difficult for social confidence and matching:** Germany
